A kind of suicide I want to talk in here is self-harming, which happen often in most of teenager
“Self-harming is when people cause themselves physical pain that alters their mood state (how they feel inside). Some people harm themselves because they feel disconnected and isolated from everybody, and hurting themselves is the only way they feel real or connected.”
There is no statistic about this. according to this blog( http://blog.caitoi.info/?p=1534), the number of teenagers harm themselves increase a lot, still, there are few of them commit suicide ,just above 1%.
In my view, We can not say that non of us have problem with dealing with this changing attitude, changing society. Most of us harm ourselves in different ways immediately or eventually ( well, if this sentence is wrong, please comment so that I could know about this ^__^)
There are many kinds of selfharming :
* cutting their skin with knives or any sharp object
* burning their skin
* hitting their body with an object or fists (like punching the wall)
* deliberately falling when doing something like extreme sports
* picking at their skin
* swallowing pills or sharp objects
* pulling at their hair.
A popular act of self harm, in Vietnamese teenagers is wrist cutting .According to some Vietnamese newspapers .There was a time wrist cutting become popular in teenagers, especially in Hanoi, this phenomenon often happen in the urban environment such as big city, where the society is more complex
Reasons why they do that? I did a small research and learn that, there are 4 reasons for self-harm:
Personality Disorder: use to describe those who have different attitudes or behaviours that can not meet the society’s expectation. It lasts in a long time and cause stress to themselves or others.Common problem is having difficulty insustaining relationships
( for more detail, read this web http://www.tamlyhoc.net/forum/index.php?topic=2586.0.)
In this kind of personality .I think because the teenager tend to feel lost and depressed when their attention is persistently ignored in the society. Those people are the one who easily commit suicide if they can not get help in a long time. However, I think those people are few in Vietnam
Lacking of communication skill: according to Vietnamese sociologist this is more common in our country where students only know how to deal with social problem theoretically, not practically Some people is aware that they can’t follow the growing demand of the society, result in feeling of failure. In addition to this, these people share the same typical character : timid and quiet….. When the need of a human is : to have people understand them, to get connect to a group is being ignored, they tend to get depressed easily.
In my opinion, the lack of communication make it really difficult to fit in their community, the act of cutting wrist is a way of punishing oneself, also, expressing their extreme feeling that they have to stand. More important, the number of those people seem to increase these day in Vietnam due to lack of pracitcal education .
Follow the trend: teenagers are sensitive to the changing life, changing society. When the world have become ” flatten”, our country input lots of cultures from others, it is understandable that teenagers act and express themselves like others cultures for teenage tend to adapt to new environment faster.
In my view, this is either the act to show the attempt of fitting into the new society, or trying to be a unique individual. HOwever, this is also dangerous not because they do not cut one time for showing off. Once they cut their wrist , they can have but to repeat it another time they get stress. Till then, you know you are really doing that but you can not stop doing that to escape the despair
Reason come from the outside factors ( maybe including following the trend) : the workforce, the background’s problem that affect their emotion , the demand of the society is higher than their abilities, moreover bullying . Parents, teachers, friends,.. those who are close to the victim are the factors that cause the victims to self-harm.
In this case, I think people in big city experience this more as the society has become complexity. They also include some characteristic like quiet and timid.
P/s : Well, I’m not good at academic writing . Those were only my thought of a teenagers’ phenomena. Sorry if this entry may ( which is absolutely ) make you confuse . They may not right to you . If you have any others ideas please help me get this perfect. Beside, we can get to help each other more if you can let me know how you feel about depression, how you deal with it, optimistically or negatively , all are accepted. 😀
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