Today, when Vietnam is in the integration period, we are sure that there are both good and bad. Vietnam basic has gained much from the world‘s culture to develop economic and society. However, we can not prevent the bad aspects that perhaps young people are most influenced by too many differences in manners and customs. Because of the lack of knowledge and the speed of integration, young people can not adjust themselves into the change. This can be seen that there is a problem which becomes so popular in Vietnam after integration. With the title above, certainly, you know what I am going to discuss about ^^. It is the problem of having sexual relations when student still “sit” on the lecture hall.
As we know, it is a phenomenon which appears mostly in young people, especially in student. It can be called by another name: a “quiet” sexual relation.
In fact, it is not hard to catch a case that two students live together in one room. The girl seems to be an “illegal wife” of the boy. After the time at school, she comes back home to prepare the lunch or the dinner, to do housework, so on. The boy just returns his “lovely home” to enjoy everything without doing anything. Furthermore, the story about “experiment- life” is not only sharing a meal or caring health one another but also having sexual relation which just mostly happens in the honeymoon of a husband and wife before in Orient.
When some sex education’s organizations do the survey to investigate this problem among students. They ask a question that what is the reason why some students chose “experiment- life” when they are still young. Most of the answer is that this lifestyle helps them to save money. They can have a person to share the happiness and the pain. However what is the right answer?
I’m sure that each person will have her own answer but we can collect these different ways of thinking to look at some examples:
N- A student of Hue University of science decided to live with her boyfriend had to leave home after a year when the life is not effectively test as expected. Whereas, T- a student of teacher’s college are excited because his life with love is so passionate. (Source Dan Tri)
From these examples: perhaps some one will be positive and some one will be negative. But they are not all.
A couple of students at social science and humanity’s university keep secret to rent a room in a guest house. They based on a very simple philosophy: “we should do everything we want to not regret in the future even we do not receive the consent from our parent”. In the first time, they lived so happy but they were not subsidized the money from their parent any more. After just 2 week for the test life, they decided to come back home and desire to have some investment to do business. Besides, they are not like before, the boy becomes older with thin body and black skin in position of a motorbike taxi driver and the girl is also not beautiful any more when she used to quarrel with her “husband” and neighbors. (Source Dan Tri)
These scenes like this have become so familiar in guest- house for student in Vietnam.
It is obvious from these examples that student will face a lot of difficulties when they have sex before marriage too early. May be, the love at that time is just a way to satisfy their desire to feel the happiness of marriage or their craving of sex in some cases. All we know that love is something can’t be defined exactly. When we fall in love, some one can not control themselves any more. Then, they start a life of gross self-indulgence without thinking about the consequences in the future. Beside the difficulty about life expenses, what is the next effect of test life to young people?
The director of center for reproductive health care said: “70% of customers who go to the center of reproductive health care for adolescents are students. Most of them are girls who come for abortion”. This truly is a sad state of Vietnam’s society.
Young people are waiting to abort- a way to kill a child.
I have a chance to read statistics from a book which shows that People divorce from the group “has test life before marriage” higher than at least twice more than the couple “not live” before marriage.
To understand more about this problem in Vietnam, this video will show you more clearly.
Therefore, we can see that it really has many disadvantages of life test in student. Because of the lack of knowledge, most students don’t understand about reproductive health and sex. Experience on living together can cause abortion (complication can lead to infertility), or some disease such as Syphilis and Cancroids when they have an unsafe sex. In addition, it will lead to the physical and metal injuries that the girl will be the first to suffer. Moreover, in society with bold oriental tradition such as Vietnam, having sexual relation before marriage or life test is not approved. It still has a lot of critical comments in additionally.
However, these are not all the mistake of the young while the society not cares much about them. Vietnamese are still shy when talking about the problems which involve gender and sexual relations. Student can not behave in the right way when they don’t have enough chance to approach the fact though studying or listening. We should teach young people about reproductive health more to show them what is the best choice for their future.
P/S: Do you agree or disagree with pre-marital sex? I’m sure that you have the answer now. I respect all your idea about this problem. Anyhow, I absolutely do not hold with this lifestyle, I treasure the dignity of a girl, specially the virginity before marriage. Thank you so much for reading my entry. I know that it is still limited about information and point of view. If any body has further suggestions, you can tell sincerely and don’t worry about me. Thank you so much.
Trần Phan Phương Linh