As we have already known that the more developed the society, the more social-evils it has. Domestic Violence is one of the social-evils which is not only harmful to body but also harmful to spirit. It is increasing alarmingly on over the world and more than that, its victims is not only women, they can be men, children and also old-people. Domestic violence is prevalent in Vietnam, with poverty, alcoholism and gender role stereotypes considered to be the main causes.
Domestic violence, also known as domestic abuse, spousal abuse, child abuse or intimate partner violence (IPV), can be broadly defined a pattern of abusive behaviors by one or both partners in an intimate relationship such as marriage, dating, family, friends or cohabitation. Domestic violence has many forms including physical aggression (hitting, kicking, biting, shoving, restraining, throwing objects), or threats thereof; sexual abuse; emotional abuse; controlling or domineering; intimidation; stalking; passive/covert abuse (e.g., neglect); and economic deprivation. Domestic violence may or may not constitute a crime, depending on local statues, severity and duration of specific acts, and other variables. Alcohol consumption and mental illness have frequently been associated with abuse.
Awareness, perception and documentation of domestic violence differs from country to country, and from era to era. Domestic violence has many forms, but all forms of domestic abuse have one purpose: to gain and maintain total control over the victim. Abusers use many tactics to exert power over their spouse or partner: dominance, humiliation, isolation, threats, intimidation, denial and blame. According to a local newspaper, a woman dies from domestic violence every three days in Viet Nam.
About forms of domestic violence, firstly, we talk about Physical Violence. Physical violence is the intentional use of physical force with the potential for causing injury, harm, disability, or death, for example, hitting, shoving, biting, restraint, kicking, or use of a weapon.
The next form is Sexual abuse. Sexual abuse is common in abusive relationships is divided into three categories: unwanted, unsafe, or degrading sexual activity. The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence reports that between one-third and one-half of all battered women are raped by their partners at least once during their relationship. Forced sex, even by a spouse or intimate partner with whom consensual sex has occurred, is an act of aggression and violence. Furthermore, women whose partners abuse them physically and sexually are at a higher risk of being seriously injured or killed.
Emotional abuse is the third one. Emotional abuse (also called psychological abuse or mental abuse) can include humiliating the victim privately or publicly, controlling what the victim can and cannot do, with holding information from the victim, deliberately doing something to make the victim feel diminished or embarrassed, isolating the victim from friends and family, implicitly blackmailing the victim by harming others when the victim expresses independence or happiness, or denying the victim access to money or other basic resources and necessities.
Economic abuse is when the abuser has complete control over the victim’s money and other economic resources. Usually, this involves putting the victim on a strict “allowance”, with holding money and forcing the victim to beg for the money until the abuser gives them some. It is common for the victim to receive less money as the abuse continues. This also includes (but is not limited to) preventing the victim from finishing education or obtaining employment, or intentionally squandering or misusing communal resources.
Another of them is Stalking. Stalking is often considered a type of psychological intimidation that causes a victim to feel a high level of fear. This form is usually used to children. the girl is hit by her dad.
It seem like domestic violence has existed in Vietnamese families for a long time. It occurs in Vietnamese society so often that everyone regard it as a normal thing. Domestic violence is not happen to women only, it happens to old parents, small children and also men. It’s quite easy to see a woman get hit by her partner, even worse, she can be abused by knife, steel tube, rope, boiled water and many other terrify things. More than that, the same things happen to small children when they do not obey their parents. The other thing is parents/ grandparents also get hit, be neglected by their own children/grandchildren because of many ridiculous reasons like they are old, they can not do anything, they disciplined their kids so their kids prevent when they get old, etc.
Here are some statistics about Domestic Violence.
- Approximately 95% of the victims of domestic violence are women.
(Department of Justice figures)
- 4,000,000 women a year are assaulted by their partners.
- Every day, 4 women are murdered by boyfriends or husbands.
- 93% of women who killed their mates had been battered by them. 67% killed them to protect themselves and their children at the moment of murder.
- 2/3 of all marriages will experience domestic violence at least once.
- 60% of all battered women are beaten while they are pregnant.
- 34% of the female homicide victims over age 15 are killed by their husbands, ex-husbands, or boyfriends.
Family is the cell creates a wonderful national prosperity and prospers. Domestic violence is a dangerous diseases are threatening the survival of the cell he magically therefore need medication in time to ensure a happy family in the society of our prosperity.
Le Thanh Trang – BAWE09292